Who Am I?

Interview inspired by Iyabo Asani:

My friend Iyabo answered this interview on her blog and so am I!

Answer these questions for yourself and see what comes up for you.

If there was one word that would define everything you do, strive for and resonate with, what would that be?

Love. I have come to the realization that everything good in our lives flows out of love, and I flow love to myself and to every other person, situation and thing that I come into contact with, even when I’m in court dealing with indigents who are accused of crimes. I find that flowing love in my coaching practice and in my legal practice, as well as in my interactions everywhere throughout my day creates a more loving experience for me. Even when I see an awful story on the news, I flow love to the subjects. Being love has changed the way I interact with the world and how the world interacts with me.

What is (are) the core feeling(s) that drive(s) everything you do?

Duty, responsibility, love, curiosity, passion.

What are the things you are most proud of from what you’ve accomplished or done so far in life?

I am most proud of stepping out of the place of blame and victimization into my own power to create life the way I want it to be, and to be in a set of professions that helps others to do the same for themselves.

What is your genius, what are your talents?

I am an incredibly sensitive and intuitive person whom others trust with their secrets and feelings. I am creative and innovative. I am a leader. I am up-beat. I am inquisitive, always learning and growing as a human being. I have an ability to help others see things in a way they never did before.

If you were to start your career/business all over again, what would you do differently?

I would have niched my business to a particular target market very early on.

What do you crave?

Knowledge, enlightenment, love, connection, my own structure, nature, chocolate.

What do you want less of in your life?

Student loans.

What annoys you the most?

Someone, including myself, being unheard. Injustice.

If there was one thing you could revolutionize, what would that be?

Women in the workplace/marketplace, how they are seen, valued, rewarded, promoted, and the standards they must live by.

What are the best realizations you had that changed your life?

I am a spiritual being having a physical encounter. Everything I need is already there for me. What I focus on gets bigger.

What do you love?

Children and the way they look at the world with curiosity and wonder about the littlest things and they fear very little. Creativity, art, food prepared with love, nature and the sounds of birds, the way the sun feels on my skin, crickets and frogs making noise at night, the way the leaves turn over just before it rains, snuggling, my sweetie’s eyes, reading a really good book that I can’t put down, how much my parents love each other.

What is the best material gift one can give you and why?

Live plants, flowers, herbs or trees. They will grow and stay with me for a very long time and remind me of the one who gave them to me or the event that I received them for. I can transplant them when I move, most of the time. I can even cook with some of the plants I receive. Flowers attract bumble bees and butterflies that give me a sense of wonder all summer long.

What is your favorite flower and what do you see in it?

Daisies, particularly Gerbera Daisies, any color. They are like little pieces of sunshine. I call them smiles in flower form.

What advice would you give to your 18 year old Self?

Follow your heart and do what you love doing for a living. Listen to yourself because nobody else has the answers for you but you. Tap in to what you love, what you get lost in, and do that every day. Learn the art of self-love and practice it regularly. Listen to your body. Flow love to yourself and to others.

What are you most proud of in your country/people?

Enterprise. In America anyone can be or do anything they put their mind to. I think that may be true in other parts of the world too, but it certainly is true here. I’m also proud of heritage and history. My sense of both make me truly grateful to be here and to have the opportunities I have.

Did you have a job that you hated in the past and if yes, why?

Yes. I am not sure I hated the actual jobs I had, but I know that at the time I hated some of the people I had to deal with, some of the cases I had to deal with, some of the ways I had to do things, and the way I was treated in some scenarios. I am fairly certain that I hated my “job” because I was not in control of my own life, destiny and career – or so I perceived. I felt trapped, doomed, sentenced. I felt terribly shaded from the opportunity to grow and I was unheard. What I had to offer was not tapped. I did not have the systems in place to do my best. I did not have opportunities to grow. I did not have mentors and healthy learning opportunities.